The attitude towards online dating, even in the Internet age, remains extremely ambiguous. However, this does not stop various dating sites from growing and increasing the number of their users. True, most of them hardly know how to properly present themselves online in order to attract attention and to be liked.
Psychologist and evangelist of the entertainment social network Ekaterina Fadeeva told ten life hacks that will allow you not to get lost on dating sites.
Photo
Many women forget that men love with their eyes. And before writing a message at all, they look closely at the pictures of the chosen one, and only then look at the profile. So take your dating “portfolio” seriously. Choose those pictures in which you can clearly see your face, or in which you are doing what you love. Do not publish photos: with filters and graphic editors, do not add photos in a swimsuit, lace underwear or a provocative dress to the album.
Hobbies
Most of the questionnaires contain words like "kind, good, I like to cook, etc." If your profile is not hanging on a dating site for fun, and you still want to find the same person, then it is better to be more specific in matters of hobby. If your passion is books, then indicate which kind of literature you prefer: fantasy, novels and epics, medieval literature, or maybe your soul lies in Latin American prose. When specifying your hobbies, always remember that concretization will help weed out the “wrong” and attract “the very ones”.
disadvantages
When filling out the questionnaire, remember not only your advantages, but also your shortcomings. And it's good if these flaws are more like cute personality traits and lifestyle. For example, you can write “in moments of anger, I am like a kettle boiling. But I cool down quickly."
A few words about myself
Key words are “a couple of words”. Don't write the fifth volume of War and Peace. Prepare 4-5 short sentences, it says everything that you are ready to share with a stranger. Tell us not only about your hobbies and character, but also about your affections.
Nonstandard first message
Let's be honest, "Hello, how are you?" is not the best way to start a conversation with someone you don't know. Too primitive, too simple and boring. An erudite person, for example, is not interested in such a phrase. Replace it with something more intriguing, for example, start a conversation with the fact that “there is an interesting point in your profile that I simply could not pass by. Why are you so attracted to (suppose) the Juche idea?"
Show interest
It is a well-known fact - "people talk more than they listen." And you go from the opposite: ask more questions, of course, within the bounds of decency. Ask where these photos were taken, which of Scorsese's films he likes best (if he listed this director as his favorite). A quick glance at your personal page gives you plenty of opportunities to strike up an interesting conversation.
Do not make every future husband out of
One of the main mistakes. Women take dating too seriously. After just a few minutes of communication, they wonder if the man will be able to meet her needs, whether she is ready to accept his beer belly, or is it better not to reply to the last message at all. Men claim that such communication is exhausting them. It is not necessary to look at everything from a romantic point of view, you can find yourself a good friend, just an interesting interlocutor or acquaintance whom you will always be glad to see.
Do not lie
If you are on this dating site with serious intentions, then be honest: do not lie about your age, weight, social and marital status.
Take action
Don't drag out online conversations. If you like your interlocutor, then do not hesitate to accept the invitation to a date. Of course, the attitude towards online dating is still somewhat frivolous, and many fear that it is possible to run into a person who is not the most decent. But if you are frank with yourself, then such people can be encountered in real life. Just do not rush to transfer your relationship to a new level until you are confident in the chosen one. This applies to both the person whom your friends introduced you to and the person from the dating site.
